How do I prepare my boyfriend for a married life with an activist?

March 28, 2023

I’m planning to ask my boyfriend to marry me. He's been my rock throughout all the years we've been together. But I know doing what I do—community organizing and political work—will put us at risk of attacks by state forces and by those who wish to oppress the communities I serve. I know this because I’ve already experienced it myself. I'm afraid that I'll be dragging my boyfriend into that if we spend our lives together. He's not an activist but he knows and understands the work that I do. How do I prepare him for it?

Dear Meg

Can I still be a good person even if I’ve hurt a lot of people in the past?

February 16, 2023

One of the great privileges of my vocation is being able to see, beneath that complexity, people at their barest. In their most honest, most vulnerable moments, my counselees taught me that everybody, almost always, simply wants to do the right thing.

Dear Meg

How do you have so much energy for other comrades’ concerns?

February 15, 2023

When comrades come to us, our role, I have learned, is not so much to give advice, but to listen. They’ve already analyzed all sides of their predicament, being the proper activists that they are.

Dear Meg

Dear Meg, how do I become a good activist despite being socially anxious?

November 23, 2022

Step by step, person by person. It’s true that practice makes progress; for every nine nos you utter, say yes to something. Don't be afraid to go into uncharted territories, anchored in your belief that you know what this is for.

Dear Meg

Dear Meg, does unconditional love exist?

October 16, 2022

Is it transactional love when I expect to receive something? Or is it inevitable that in love, there is an expectation of giving and taking?

Dear Meg

Dear Meg, kailangan bang mawalan ng pag-asa?

June 19, 2022

Hindi natin maunawaan kung bakit pipiliin ng taumbayan ang mga umaastang pinuno ngunit walang pakialam sa kanilang kalagayan. Bakit iboboto ang walang-puso, mandarambong, at mamamatay-taong rehimen na kahit kailan ay di nagpahayag ng pag-ako at pagsisisi sa kanilang mga kasalanan?

Dear Meg

Dear Meg, paano hindi mawalan ng pag-asa?

May 17, 2022

Nalulungkot tayo, nagagalit, nagulat, nag-aalala, at pinapanawan ng pag-asa. Ang magandang balita: hindi tayo nagsisimula sa wala.

Dear Meg

Dear Meg, paano kung si BBM?

May 9, 2022

Kung paanong pinasigla ng eleksyong ito ang diwang makabayan ng maraming Pilipino, inaasahan kong lalo pang titindi ang ating hangarin para sa tunay na pagbabago sa mga darating na buwan.

Dear Meg

As a sexually active activist

May 2, 2022

We see that notions of promiscuity are socially determined, and my hope is that you don’t doubly victimize yourself with standards created for another time and place.

Dear Meg

Dear Meg | Trusting yourself to live, even one more day

April 7, 2022

You speak of not being able to trust yourself. It is a terrible thing, but it need not spell the end. Knowing where you are is a great place to start. Deciding that it’s temporary is even better.